To reiterate... The fact that you allow a deranged cat lady to behave in the exact same manner, also legitimately scares some of your users. And you don't seem to care.
This:
Is BONKERS.5) Therefore, while I am not banning or restricting splitthis, I am giving her a public warning not to continue doing this sort of thing. This means:
-- No threatening to look up information or visit other PFA users
-- No references, cryptic or otherwise, regarding PFA users' jobs or family members
-- No more posts about Kilgore Trout's legal matters, unless she first clears such posts with me (which I will only allow if it's something extreme which the public needs to know)
-- No references of any kind to any PFA user which borders upon making cryptic threats or giving out personal info
You just wrote a list of completely insane things that you allowed to slide, and said "don't let it happen again".
It's your site and all, and I normally wouldn't give you such a hard time about how you run it, but that is unacceptable.