Quote Originally Posted by Dan Druff View Post
Niko,

I can't do this anymore. You may think that your reasoning makes sense, but it doesn't. I tried to give you a chance, but I am not seeing any compelling evidence which changes my mind.

You are claiming she lied in court in order to get the restraining order granted. If she were asked, I'm sure she'd say she told the truth. Do I have any way to know which person is telling the accurate story? I don't. That's why I really don't like to get in the middle of personal disputes.

If you don't want to apologize, that's fine. This is probably way past the point of apologies anyway. I would just suggest that you work to mitigate this situation (such as informing tournament directors when necessary), and then forget she exists.

I will offer one thing to you, though. I'll remove your name from the thread so it falls off Google, if you'd like that. That will allow you a fresh start from the situation, and hopefully you can move on at that point. Let me know if you'd like me to do that.
First off thank you for that offer. That is a great step forward for me and I appreciate it and I would like that. I’ll DM you regarding that. I am not saying I did nothing wrong but that it is being presented in a manner that is untruthful. I am confident that this would look a whole lot different if all parties were honest. You may not believe me but it wouldn’t be the first time I get called insane and then proven right somewhere along the line. I made a big mistake and I don’t think what I did was right. I always prefer to have full transparency and do not change that for any situation. However I also cannot apologize to the air. If somebody were to confront me about what I did to them and I am convinced they are being forward with me 10/10 times I am going to apologize to them in an earnest manner. If I think I’m being lied to I’m going to be forward to them as well. I grew up in a household and family of mostly women and I know I have not come all this way on some delusion. Also I’ve had a situation similar to this with an ex of mine however she asked me for money specifically in exchange for her talking to me and she did not uphold her end. I sent her money and blew up her phone trying to get a response.That is the only other case remotely close to this. Melissa also said on her page that Ive “done this to other women”. I have the somewhere and can find it. Where are these other women? They don’t exist. And she couldn’t know about my ex. She has lied about me to a lot of people and it’s very harmful to me.

Second off please read the following carefully:
The lie I am most concerned about should be clear on my 2nd point of post 36 of this thread. Please go through it very carefully as I am concerned with verifying what I am alleging in the 2nd point of post 36 of this thread. Not that it is consequential, just that I am correct.
In order:
-She tweets on December 5th 2022 directly quoting/citing a message from my main account and alleging that I am using her inbox as my daily diary
-She then tweets on March 29th “I never saw these messages this is so much worse than I thought”

I am not concerned with wether or not you believe it is consequential but I would like some acknowledgement that she lied to people on March 29th


Third I am in a group of men who are victim of false or exaggerated accusations. Every member is vetted and listened to. They have seen it all from false rape accusations to smear campaigns. You have no idea how the power they are given is manipulated to harm these men. None. It is absolutely dangerous for me to be anywhere this women might also be including a tournament. There’s no way to prove what I was doing or that I ever talked to a tournament director. She can say whatever she wants and the problem is that she has this type of power. I have no idea whether or not she’ll feel slighted on a certain day she might see me playing a tournament. It is truly a dangerous situation for me to be in and that is what I was advised in this group to never even play a tournament. It is a massive risk for me. You just don’t get it. That is one reason I am putting this out here so that I can protect myself in some form if I decide to take the risk and play the main event.

Fourth my number one priority is to look after my family in a trying time where I feel responsible for them. I have the foresight to have seen what is happening in the world right now and I’m certain it’ll get much worse. This event has had a cascade effect on me financially. It is a numbers game and I am not a millionaire where skipping a few tournaments and being booted from games is inconsequential for me. It has had a domino effect on my life I have not even begun to scratch the surface of how this has affected me.

Fifth I’ll refer back to the second point in this post and why I think it’s important to acknowledge that she lied on March 29th about not having read my messages. If you know anything about young women nowadays, they screenshot and share everything. So why is this important? She is an influential member of a big space. It is relevant. If those messages were reaching various parties and you read some of the content of the actual messages and try to look at it from my side step by step as you’ve suggested I do, you might see negligence. If all the adults are watching and they are allowing it to unfold in this manner, it absolutely can be a big deal and have wronged me in a bad way.

Sixth I am no danger to anybody. I’ve never threatened nor approached this women even though I had an opportunity to do that at one point in 2023. It is ridiculous and hysteria at minimum to say things that paint me as a violent psychopath. It’s very harmful and often manipulative to do that. I was trying to get a date with her. I was wrong. Like I said, you should hear some of the stories in the group that I’m in and you might agree. A no contact order would have sufficed. In fact, I was on a different continent last year in a place with lots of friends. If I wanted to I could have gotten a burner there and messaged her anything I wanted but I never did that. I promise you I have not even so much as looked at any of her social media profiles since the injunction was put into place. I did an immediate 180 after listening to her lie to the judge. I do not want anything to do with her. I’ve reassessed my priorities and I see what I did wrong.

Thank you for reading and I’ll reach out to your DM shortly.