Quote Originally Posted by WillieMcFML View Post
Quote Originally Posted by Sanlmar View Post

You got my best wishes kid.

You are fretting about the job. I will offer you my read.

I am a Willie fan so I remember a bit. My read is you work in a sales setting. You like your job so it appears they like you and you are performing ok.

If the boss is a sales guy at heart, I offer the following. Sales guys (especially bosses) deal in favors, relationships & loyalty. They love granting favors and garnering the loyalty that they expect would result.

Most people react favorably to being trusted. Even sales weasels.

Employees who perform well are nearly always less cherished than those who are loyal to me.

If you approach this guy and tell your story and your plan and he supports you - this will go a long way toward your feeling good about life and dealing with your problem.

Give it some thought & decide if you want to play a hand with this guy to the river.
i agree, and think it is likely they would support me, but i still don't want to be "that guy"

i've been so far removed from it for almost a decade and a half, i just don't want that stigma attached to me in a professional setting at my age. i mean, if you told me two years ago i'd be in this spot i would laugh at you cause i'd been there done that and feel so far above i
just really disappointed in myself more than anything
Yes, it's hard to not kick yourself but it ultimately it wont make it better so try to drop that.

I have also tried to keep things hidden and did so for some time but lost out in the long run.
If I were you I would keep this close to the vest, meaning telling no employees and very few friends or family. Everyone talks and they also know what's right for you. So maybe just a counsellor.


If you're sure a withdrawal will threaten your job I would get some gear lined up and eventually try to get back on some substitution plan