What are your dating green/beige/red flags?

[Dan Druff]

I found this survey online in 2023, saved it to my phone, and meant to post it up here at the time. Then I forgot, and nearly 2 years later, here I am with it.

I'm curious the way you guys would answer to each of these.

Note that:

Red flag = Big negative
Green flag = Big positive
Beige flag = Neutral or mixed feelings

Here's how men and women answered in this 2023 poll. I have to imagine that in 2025, it would probably be a bit less red for things like being conservative. In any case, here it is:



What would be your red, green, and beige flags, if dating today?

Feel free to answer, even if you are married or not otherwise looking to date at the moment.

[BCR]

What does the green texts thing even mean? I mean my texts are blue, but isn’t the color based on the recipients phone? Like sometimes I’ll hit send and it will be green.

I don’t find most of those things very relevant. I prefer apolitical women.

I don’t think I would like a chick who listens to Joe Rogan. Not because of his politics, but it’s such a heavily testosterone laden show, that I’d find it weird. Like I’d expect a woman who listens to Rogan to be the same type of woman who would say I always had way more male friends than girls. That I find to be an actual red flag.

The astrology shit is a huge red flag as it means they are really dumb and also believe other nonsensical things.

I don’t think I have ever met someone with no hobbies at all.


Frequently posting on social media would be the biggest red flag for me if we are talking about attention seeking posts. Frequently posting photos because they are addicted to the compliments is someone I don’t want anything to do with. If it is just kids and stuff, no concern.

One serious red flag I have found is women involved heavily in animal rights groups.

I don’t mean that they love their pet. I love animals. But the women who live for like animal rescue stuff I have found are completely insane and broken. Any girl I have ever known who is that way loves animals to that degree because there are basically no humans alive that can stand them anymore and they need something around them who can’t tell them they are crazy. That is a huge red flag.

I could come up with a better list of actual red flags than that list. I’ll add some later when I have more time and examples of something I’d instantly run the fuck away from.

[Dan Druff]

What does the green texts thing even mean? I mean my texts are blue, but isn’t the color based on the recipients phone? Like sometimes I’ll hit send and it will be green.

I don’t find most of those things very relevant. I prefer apolitical women.

I don’t think I would like a chick who listens to Joe Rogan. Not because of his politics, but it’s such a heavily testosterone laden show, that I’d find it weird. Like I’d expect a woman who listens to Rogan to be the same type of woman who would say I always had way more male friends than girls. That I find to be an actual red flag.

The astrology shit is a huge red flag as it means they are really dumb and also believe other nonsensical things.

I don’t think I have ever met someone with no hobbies at all.


Frequently posting on social media would be the biggest red flag for me if we are talking about attention seeking posts. Frequently posting photos because they are addicted to the compliments is someone I don’t want anything to do with. If it is just kids and stuff, no concern.

One serious red flag I have found is women involved heavily in animal rights groups.

I don’t mean that they love their pet. I love animals. But the women who live for like animal rescue stuff I have found are completely insane and broken. Any girl I have ever known who is that way loves animals to that degree because there are basically no humans alive that can stand them anymore and they need something around them who can’t tell them they are crazy. That is a huge red flag.

I could come up with a better list of actual red flags than that list. I’ll add some later when I have more time and examples of something I’d instantly run the fuck away from.

I agree with most of this.

It's funny how they mention the hobbies thing. I never had an issue with any girls having hobbies, but one red flag I did find in the past was a workaholic. I kind of equate that to "too many hobbies" in that it means she won't have much time for you.

I hardly used dating sites because I generally hated them, but I did try one in 2001, and a girl responded to me who seemed nice, was my age, and looked cute.

I called her up, and indeed she was quite down to earth and nice. At first I was enjoying talking to her, but then she mentioned two things which I really didn't like hearing:

1) She goes to bed super early and wakes up super early

2) She does the above because she goes to work at 6:30am and stays fairly late, and work was basically her life


It's not like she owned her own business, or anything interesting like that, where perhaps this could be overlooked. She worked for a fucking dog food company, and was one of the managers there. I asked her why she worked such long hours, and she said she just enjoyed doing that.

I pictured being thrown out of her house at 8:30pm every night so she could go to sleep in order to get up at 5am and work on dog food. And I pictured having a lot of difficulty getting any free time from her, except perhaps on weekends. By the end of the conversation, I had lost all interest, and never called her back.

[gut]

What does the green texts thing even mean? I mean my texts are blue, but isn’t the color based on the recipients phone? Like sometimes I’ll hit send and it will be green.

I don’t find most of those things very relevant. I prefer apolitical women.

I don’t think I would like a chick who listens to Joe Rogan. Not because of his politics, but it’s such a heavily testosterone laden show, that I’d find it weird. Like I’d expect a woman who listens to Rogan to be the same type of woman who would say I always had way more male friends than girls. That I find to be an actual red flag.

The astrology shit is a huge red flag as it means they are really dumb and also believe other nonsensical things.

I don’t think I have ever met someone with no hobbies at all.


Frequently posting on social media would be the biggest red flag for me if we are talking about attention seeking posts. Frequently posting photos because they are addicted to the compliments is someone I don’t want anything to do with. If it is just kids and stuff, no concern.

One serious red flag I have found is women involved heavily in animal rights groups.

I don’t mean that they love their pet. I love animals. But the women who live for like animal rescue stuff I have found are completely insane and broken. Any girl I have ever known who is that way loves animals to that degree because there are basically no humans alive that can stand them anymore and they need something around them who can’t tell them they are crazy. That is a huge red flag.

I could come up with a better list of actual red flags than that list. I’ll add some later when I have more time and examples of something I’d instantly run the fuck away from.

Generally agree with most of that. I'll throw one of my own red flags in: Adults who are super into kid stuff, and don't have kids. The women who vaca at Disney World, go to parades, go to the zoo frequently, watch fireworks shows, own a bunch of stuffed animals/dolls. They are some of the weirdest broads.

[desertrunner]

I didnt read all the material in this thread, but I will add my quick answers.

Red Flag-

If a woman is unemployed or has a lame job. Or she has a job and not a career. "Life coach" is not a job. If she is a real estate agent, she better be successful and not struggling.

When they are obvious gold diggers, food diggers, feel entitled, want a man to sponsor them, looking to take his retirement, alimony, spousal support, etc.

Lots of obvious surgery, big fake tits, lip injections, etc.

Lots of tattoos- red flag.

Lots of guy friends- red flag.

I believe financial planning is important- Youre either going to do it now, or later, in a panic. Most women refuse to financial plan and expect the man to take care of them. Most people refuse to plan for retirement and feel that "its just going to all work out".

Druff first coined the phrase "white knight" and its spot on here. If you need to white knight or rescue some woman- red flag.

Does she have a crappy car? Does she even have a car?

Always in a relationship with a dude and cant be alone- major red flag.

Smokes cigarettes or big alcohol drinker- Major red flags.

If she is living with er parents or still in an apartment by her 40's-- red flag.

She is on alot of prescription medications.

Constantly changing her cell phone number.

Bad credit score. Does she even have a credit card?

Hype emotional- Most or all women, its the estrogen.

Liberal views, colored hair, nose ring, shaved head, poor dresser- all red flags.

You cant wife a hoe.

Has too many kids or grand kids. You dont need this, run away.

The biggest one- Communication. Most women are horrible at communication.


Green Flags

She has a career, not a job.

She is stable- this will be obvious.

Not a liberal. (im not conservative either)

She does financial planning and not relaying on or waiting for a man to rescue her.

She has real estate as in owns a home.

Major point- There is no reason for a man to get married in today's society. You do not own the person, it doesnt guarantee they wont cheat on you and all a marriage license is a 3 way binding contract (2 people and the state) to split up future assets also know as community property. Forget the idea of "locking it down", because its a false idea.

Most men get married today because they think it "locks in the sex", thats BS. If you have enough game as a single dude, you can be sexual without signing a contract. Again, marriage is a losing game and all the life things can be done without marriage and power of attorney and contracts.

In closing- This is all a quick slap together list and ideas, your mileage may very.

[1marley1]

Druff first coined the phrase "white knight" and its spot on here. If you need to white knight or rescue some woman- red flag.

The term "white knight" is used in modern-day parlance to mean any kind of savior,[2] although it is also specifically used in a business context to describe a person or corporation that saves another company from a hostile takeover and acquires its assets.[3]
In various online communities and interactions, "white knight" is also used in slang to refer to men who are trying to curry the favor of women by protecting them, alongside other, similar terms, such as "simp" or "whipped".[4] Those who use the term often align with a Chad-like disposition in an often completely imagined game of sexual competition. The usage of the term implies that these men, when doing nice things for women, are motivated only by sexual desires.

[desertrunner]

Druff first coined the phrase "white knight" and its spot on here. If you need to white knight or rescue some woman- red flag.

The term "white knight" is used in modern-day parlance to mean any kind of savior,[2] although it is also specifically used in a business context to describe a person or corporation that saves another company from a hostile takeover and acquires its assets.[3]
In various online communities and interactions, "white knight" is also used in slang to refer to men who are trying to curry the favor of women by protecting them, alongside other, similar terms, such as "simp" or "whipped".[4] Those who use the term often align with a Chad-like disposition in an often completely imagined game of sexual competition. The usage of the term implies that these men, when doing nice things for women, are motivated only by sexual desires.

You make good points. I just wasnt going that deep on the term and my list was just a quick throw together.

I did write this too-

In closing- This is all a quick slap together list and ideas, your mileage may very.

[Sanlmar]

I didnt read all the material in this thread, but I will add my quick answers.

Red Flag-

If a woman is unemployed or has a lame job. Or she has a job and not a career. "Life coach" is not a job. If she is a real estate agent, she better be successful and not struggling.

When they are obvious gold diggers, food diggers, feel entitled, want a man to sponsor them, looking to take his retirement, alimony, spousal support, etc.

Lots of obvious surgery, big fake tits, lip injections, etc.

Lots of tattoos- red flag.

Lots of guy friends- red flag.

I believe financial planning is important- Youre either going to do it now, or later, in a panic. Most women refuse to financial plan and expect the man to take care of them. Most people refuse to plan for retirement and feel that "its just going to all work out".

Druff first coined the phrase "white knight" and its spot on here. If you need to white knight or rescue some woman- red flag.

Does she have a crappy car? Does she even have a car?

Always in a relationship with a dude and cant be alone- major red flag.

Smokes cigarettes or big alcohol drinker- Major red flags.

If she is living with er parents or still in an apartment by her 40's-- red flag.

She is on alot of prescription medications.

Constantly changing her cell phone number.

Bad credit score. Does she even have a credit card?

Hype emotional- Most or all women, its the estrogen.

Liberal views, colored hair, nose ring, shaved head, poor dresser- all red flags.

You cant wife a hoe.

Has too many kids or grand kids. You dont need this, run away.

The biggest one- Communication. Most women are horrible at communication.


Green Flags

She has a career, not a job.

She is stable- this will be obvious.

Not a liberal. (im not conservative either)

She does financial planning and not relaying on or waiting for a man to rescue her.

She has real estate as in owns a home.

Major point- There is no reason for a man to get married in today's society. You do not own the person, it doesnt guarantee they wont cheat on you and all a marriage license is a 3 way binding contract (2 people and the state) to split up future assets also know as community property. Forget the idea of "locking it down", because its a false idea.

Most men get married today because they think it "locks in the sex", thats BS. If you have enough game as a single dude, you can be sexual without signing a contract. Again, marriage is a losing game and all the life things can be done without marriage and power of attorney and contracts.

In closing- This is all a quick slap together list and ideas, your mileage may very.

I strongly suspect I’ve been married longer than anyone here. It’s just a chemistry between the two of us that worked out. Like most of life the element of luck in our pairing played a huge role. She is a character. So am I. No other human would understand either of us. Not long term. Anyone else I’d be divorced multiple times for sure.

One of the biggest continuing arguments we had early on was the subject of her being a stay at home mom. I just assumed she would and she could not wait to go back to work after birth. Frankly it broke my heart she could entertain dumping them off at some day care. I hated work when I was young and couldn’t comprehend her desire to grind a job instead of raising a family and watching soaps.

If I was 40 or 50 dating I’m not sure how I would feel about her career or having money. I completely understand women might be on the hustle. Likely most women have had a few failed relationships by then and complications. If I had to think about a woman’s credit score I’d just buy a fleshlight and a set of golf clubs.

Tellafriend may be in the Caymans but nothing makes me happier than driving my wife to the airport and dropping her off at the curb. She’s in North Carolina l with her girlfriends and I’ve had the best week. She’s always jetting off with her crew. They scare me when they are together. It’s best this way.

We rarely discuss politics between ourselves. It has grown to creep into our lives more frequently of late. All those topics suck. It just brings sadness. Most of us lived during the very best years of America and civilization. Pretty damn lucky. Trying to hold onto that.

That check list is a prescription for a doomed relationship.

[tgull]

I am off the chart here, but I did do a Match.com date back in the day, like 2009. We met at a Bennigans (remember those)? It was incredibly awkward, we talked about the dating world and she banged her fist on the table and said she was not settling. She was like 3 years older than me, and honestly looked like 10 years older. I'd like to give some dramatic ending to the date, but I just got the check and we parted ways, she was like are you not going to walk me to my car, I was like well it's right over there and I just walked to the bar for another drink. WTF.

[BCR]

What does the green texts thing even mean? I mean my texts are blue, but isn’t the color based on the recipients phone? Like sometimes I’ll hit send and it will be green.

I don’t find most of those things very relevant. I prefer apolitical women.

I don’t think I would like a chick who listens to Joe Rogan. Not because of his politics, but it’s such a heavily testosterone laden show, that I’d find it weird. Like I’d expect a woman who listens to Rogan to be the same type of woman who would say I always had way more male friends than girls. That I find to be an actual red flag.

The astrology shit is a huge red flag as it means they are really dumb and also believe other nonsensical things.

I don’t think I have ever met someone with no hobbies at all.


Frequently posting on social media would be the biggest red flag for me if we are talking about attention seeking posts. Frequently posting photos because they are addicted to the compliments is someone I don’t want anything to do with. If it is just kids and stuff, no concern.

One serious red flag I have found is women involved heavily in animal rights groups.

I don’t mean that they love their pet. I love animals. But the women who live for like animal rescue stuff I have found are completely insane and broken. Any girl I have ever known who is that way loves animals to that degree because there are basically no humans alive that can stand them anymore and they need something around them who can’t tell them they are crazy. That is a huge red flag.

I could come up with a better list of actual red flags than that list. I’ll add some later when I have more time and examples of something I’d instantly run the fuck away from.

Generally agree with most of that. I'll throw one of my own red flags in: Adults who are super into kid stuff, and don't have kids. The women who vaca at Disney World, go to parades, go to the zoo frequently, watch fireworks shows, own a bunch of stuffed animals/dolls. They are some of the weirdest broads.

That is funny you mention that. There is a girl I took to one of the high school dances on facebook, I can't remember which now. I don't have an account, but my buddy does and he just exchanges niceties with her. Talk about their kids, etc. Seemed normal for decades.

So she gets divorced in past few years. Goes on get in shape kick. Plastic surgery. So my buddy mentions something along the lines of we are getting old now and she instaships him a full frontal nude via messenger saying not bad for an old woman huh type message. He was literally speechless.

He is a married dude for 30 years with college aged and beyond kids. She is also. Clearly, we are like she is nuts now, who does that with no flirtation first? So she will come up occasionally when we are joking. Just last month she does Disney by herself for like 10 days? I assumed it was like because I think the kids might have more aligned with their father post divorce and maybe she was trying to remember a better time? I didn't know it was a real thing. I found going to Disney as an adult without kids so bizarre. I would assume you would be the only person at the pool there without them?

[Sanlmar]

That is funny you mention that. There is a girl I took to one of the high school dances on facebook, I can't remember which now. I don't have an account, but my buddy does and he just exchanges niceties with her. Talk about their kids, etc. Seened normal for decades.

Two things jump out. You don’t have Facebook and you can’t remember your date to one of the proms. This is so me.

Your buddy prolly blocked her and locked doors and windows at night for a while.

Funny read.

[gut]

Generally agree with most of that. I'll throw one of my own red flags in: Adults who are super into kid stuff, and don't have kids. The women who vaca at Disney World, go to parades, go to the zoo frequently, watch fireworks shows, own a bunch of stuffed animals/dolls. They are some of the weirdest broads.

That is funny you mention that. There is a girl I took to one of the high school dances on facebook, I can't remember which now. I don't have an account, but my buddy does and he just exchanges niceties with her. Talk about their kids, etc. Seemed normal for decades.

So she gets divorced in past few years. Goes on get in shape kick. Plastic surgery. So my buddy mentions something along the lines of we are getting old now and she instaships him a full frontal nude via messenger saying not bad for an old woman huh type message. He was literally speechless.

He is a married dude for 30 years with college aged and beyond kids. She is also. Clearly, we are like she is nuts now, who does that with no flirtation first? So she will come up occasionally when we are joking. Just last month she does Disney by herself for like 10 days? I assumed it was like because I think the kids might have more aligned with their father post divorce and maybe she was trying to remember a better time? I didn't know it was a real thing. I found going to Disney as an adult without kids so bizarre. I would assume you would be the only person at the pool there without them?

So did she look good?

[Dan Druff]

I am off the chart here, but I did do a Match.com date back in the day, like 2009. We met at a Bennigans (remember those)? It was incredibly awkward, we talked about the dating world and she banged her fist on the table and said she was not settling. She was like 3 years older than me, and honestly looked like 10 years older. I'd like to give some dramatic ending to the date, but I just got the check and we parted ways, she was like are you not going to walk me to my car, I was like well it's right over there and I just walked to the bar for another drink. WTF.

Dating sites in the 2000s had a lot of this.

There were a lot of the "I'm never settling" types on there, despite not having much to offer themselves. It's like the old meme about the slovenly fat guy with bad skin and thick glasses, saying he only dates 9s and 10s. This was the female equivalent of it.

One time I spoke to a girl from a Jewish dating site. We were both late 20s, I think around the time of my other story from 2001. The conversation went okay for about 20 minutes, until I asked her how many guys she had met from there before me. I said, "I'm not going to be upset if you met a number of guys before me from here. I realize I'm not the first person you've talked to here. I'm just curious, and also how things went."

She paused, then admitted that she had met 14. I asked how many of those 14 did she have a second date.

ZERO... POINT... ZERO!

I replied, "Wait, you met 14 guys from this site, and not one did you find appealing enough to see a second time?"

She then gave me the whole "I'm not settling" speech.

I said, "Oh, I understand that. I'm not saying you should settle. But these were 14 guys you liked enough to meet in the first place, not just 14 randoms. So out of those 14, there wasn't one who was good enough to even go out with a second time?"

Again, I got another form of the "I'm not settling" speech.

I told her, "Well, not to put myself down, but if you've rejected 14 out of 14 guys, I don't think I'm going to be magical #15 who you decide you like. So I don't think it's a good idea we continue this."

She then gave me an angry lecture about how I'm telling her she is expected to settle. I finally cut her off, said goodbye, and deleted my account for good.

[Dan Druff]

So she gets divorced in past few years. Goes on get in shape kick. Plastic surgery. So my buddy mentions something along the lines of we are getting old now and she instaships him a full frontal nude via messenger saying not bad for an old woman huh type message. He was literally speechless.

He is a married dude for 30 years with college aged and beyond kids.

This story actually doesn't surprise me.

I've noticed men and women get into different mindsets in middle age, regarding their appeal to the opposite sex.

Most men my age don't try to bank on their looks anymore regarding getting women. They mostly present their appeal from the standpoint of their careers, money, maturity, intelligence, stability, etc. Some might take pride that they look good for their age, but few are under the delusion that they look as good as they did 15 years ago.

There is a certain subset of middle-aged women who are still trying to use raw sex appeal in order to get men, and those are the ones shipping the unsolicited nudes out. Often they're trying to get validation that men are still turned on by them. Oddly, this isn't always connected to those who actually look great for their age. Some of the most modest and egoless middle aged women I've known were ones who look surprisingly good for their age, and they either don't realize it or don't see it as a big deal.

Of course, when it comes to shipping unsolicited nudes, men outnumber women in that department by a huge, exponential factor. But when guys do it, it's from the standpoint of "Hey look how horny I am", and they stupidly think it will turn the women on (it never does). When women do it, it's from the standpoint of "tell me how hot I am, so I can feel good", or "now that I showed you this, you're interested in me, right?"

[tgull]

I am off the chart here, but I did do a Match.com date back in the day, like 2009. We met at a Bennigans (remember those)? It was incredibly awkward, we talked about the dating world and she banged her fist on the table and said she was not settling. She was like 3 years older than me, and honestly looked like 10 years older. I'd like to give some dramatic ending to the date, but I just got the check and we parted ways, she was like are you not going to walk me to my car, I was like well it's right over there and I just walked to the bar for another drink. WTF.

Dating sites in the 2000s had a lot of this.

There were a lot of the "I'm never settling" types on there, despite not having much to offer themselves. It's like the old meme about the slovenly fat guy with bad skin and thick glasses, saying he only dates 9s and 10s. This was the female equivalent of it.

One time I spoke to a girl from a Jewish dating site. We were both late 20s, I think around the time of my other story from 2001. The conversation went okay for about 20 minutes, until I asked her how many guys she had met from there before me. I said, "I'm not going to be upset if you met a number of guys before me from here. I realize I'm not the first person you've talked to here. I'm just curious, and also how things went."

She paused, then admitted that she had met 14. I asked how many of those 14 did she have a second date.

ZERO... POINT... ZERO!

I replied, "Wait, you met 14 guys from this site, and not one did you find appealing enough to see a second time?"

She then gave me the whole "I'm not settling" speech.

I said, "Oh, I understand that. I'm not saying you should settle. But these were 14 guys you liked enough to meet in the first place, not just 14 randoms. So out of those 14, there wasn't one who was good enough to even go out with a second time?"

Again, I got another form of the "I'm not settling" speech.

I told her, "Well, not to put myself down, but if you've rejected 14 out of 14 guys, I don't think I'm going to be magical #15 who you decide you like. So I don't think it's a good idea we continue this."

She then gave me an angry lecture about how I'm telling her she is expected to settle. I finally cut her off, said goodbye, and deleted my account for good.

Like I said, it was incredibly awkward. Back then I was scoring pretty good, not necessarily good looking, but still you were getting it although the next day was miserable getting the phone call hey can I cook dinner for you, um no, one gal knocked on my apartment door like twice, she was like 170 lbs not good. This particular gal though was a flat out bitch, I dunno it was a long time ago but it just set me off.

[desertrunner]

If you’re a single successful guy with savings, a house, career, can cook and clean, do your own laundry and know how to play the game- you only need a woman for one thing. Took me a long time to learn this.

Only being real here.

[Sloppy Joe]

Flags, in order:

-kneeling at the altar of a sky wizard of any kind. Fine with people being unsure but can't imagine spending any amount of time sharing life with someone so fundamentally different.

-not.so unlike #1 but mental illness.

-being full on committed to either side of the
political spectrum and/or talking about politics nonstop.

-having a fucked up and involved family.

-jewish

[BCR]

That is funny you mention that. There is a girl I took to one of the high school dances on facebook, I can't remember which now. I don't have an account, but my buddy does and he just exchanges niceties with her. Talk about their kids, etc. Seemed normal for decades.

So she gets divorced in past few years. Goes on get in shape kick. Plastic surgery. So my buddy mentions something along the lines of we are getting old now and she instaships him a full frontal nude via messenger saying not bad for an old woman huh type message. He was literally speechless.

He is a married dude for 30 years with college aged and beyond kids. She is also. Clearly, we are like she is nuts now, who does that with no flirtation first? So she will come up occasionally when we are joking. Just last month she does Disney by herself for like 10 days? I assumed it was like because I think the kids might have more aligned with their father post divorce and maybe she was trying to remember a better time? I didn't know it was a real thing. I found going to Disney as an adult without kids so bizarre. I would assume you would be the only person at the pool there without them?

So did she look good?

She looked pretty good for lower 50s. Top 20 percent I’d put her for that age range.

[Sanlmar]

If you’re a single successful guy with savings, a house, career, can cook and clean, do your own laundry and know how to play the game- you only need a woman for one thing. Took me a long time to learn this.

Only being real here.

You stole this post from Two and a Half Men

IMBD

Jake hears Charlie saying, “If you have someone to clean your house and do your shopping, and you get some action on a regular basis, the only reason you need a wife is if you have some sick compulsion to give away half your stuff”. This gets in Jake’s head, and when he gets back to Judith’s, he repeats the same to Judith’s support group.

Family has its pluses too.

[desertrunner]

If you’re a single successful guy with savings, a house, career, can cook and clean, do your own laundry and know how to play the game- you only need a woman for one thing. Took me a long time to learn this.

Only being real here.

You stole this post from Two and a Half Men

IMBD

Jake hears Charlie saying, “If you have someone to clean your house and do your shopping, and you get some action on a regular basis, the only reason you need a wife is if you have some sick compulsion to give away half your stuff”. This gets in Jake’s head, and when he gets back to Judith’s, he repeats the same to Judith’s support group.

Family has its pluses too.

Actually, NO, I have never watched that (lame) TV show. I came to that conclusion by myself and by living my own life.

But, the term "single successful guy" did come from the movie Fast Times as Ridgemont High...