Originally Posted by
verminaard
Wikipedia defines molestation as the forcing of undesired sexual behavior by one person upon another, or any sexual contact between an adult and minor. By this definition I am not sure an 8 year old having sex with a 13 year could be defined as molestation, unless there was force involved, which seems unlikely.
You must not remember being 8 very well.
An 8-year-old boy usually doesn't have any kind of sex drive, and even if he does, would not feel comfortable acting on it in reality, especially with someone much older.
This is very different than a teenage boy being "molested" by an adult, because most teenage boys have a legitimate sex drive and are already near adulthood. They could enjoy the experience and not be scarred by it, even if the female "molesting" him is much older.
An 8-year-old is never ready for sex, and just about all of them would feel uncomfortable and traumatized by a 13-year-old touching them sexually, regardless of the gender. I remember being 8, and there's no way I would have liked a 13-year-old girl touching me that way.
13-year-old girls are also much bigger and stronger than 8-year-old boys, and especially if they are in a position of authority, can be intimidating enough to where actual force isn't required. That's what sounds like occurred in the R.A. Dickey story.