Curious on how the process works.
Curious on how the process works.
You are fucked.
That is all you need to know.
Thread needs DRK.
"You run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole; you run into assholes all day, you're the asshole."
Say it ain't so bro.
Nope, but I'm getting married in 4 weeks time
I was just about to mention the kids thing.
First off, does your state (Ohio, right?) have no-fault divorce? If it does, this will be an easier process.
Regarding the kids, I presume you want 50% custody. This is given in most cases, provided you can prove:
1) You are a fit parent -- which means no provable drug problems, alcohol problems, history of violence, etc.
2) You are willing to stay in the local area and cause a minimal disruption to the kids' life and routine.
How old are the kids? If any of them are under 2, you might need to convince the judge that you know how to care for a baby.
It would be best if you can convince your wife beforehand to agree to the 50% custody, but some women get bitter (or believe that you can't raise them right on your own), and fight for primary custody.
Also, beware of things you have posted on the internet. If your wife knows your screen name (which she might, since you've been "devidee" for years), she could easily search for posts that would "indicate" you would be an unfit parent. I am not sure if you've made any posts that could hurt you in this way, but you might want to watch out for that. Also lock down your Facebook from both your wife and her friends.
Try to think about what she might use against you in a custody battle, and have answers ready for these issues.
In general the judges tend to favor the mother when it comes to custody, but it is also fairly common to get a 50-50 custody split, even with the ex-wife trying to push for more.
Finally, try to come to an agreement with her not to badmouth each other to the kids. Divorce is hard enough on children as it is, but it is devastating for them to feel like they have to choose sides between Mommy and Daddy. Even if you end up hating her guts, don't let the kids know that, and try to convince her to give you the same respect.
BTW the worst age for kids to be when their parents divorce is 8-12, because they are old enough to fully understand it, yet too young to be emotionally ready to accept it.
The ideal time for divorce if there's kids involved is when the child is under 2. Even under 4 is not that damaging, as the child will likely not grow up with a memory of their parents together, which is actually a good thing. Obviously it is best for the kids if the parents stay together (provided the relationship isn't toxic to the point where there is constant fighting or unhappiness), but many times that is not feasible.
GL
Woah, woah, woah. 50%? Who said anything about 50%? By seeing them I meant occassionally. You know, like when the Buckeye's game isn't on and what not.
(Also, please post in this thread if you've actually filed for divorce. TIA)
LOL as that aint no lie...MY assets 10 years ago were over a million...Today I'm broke, divorced, and still in court over various issues that arrive from the marriage...God help you as even your lawyers are going to f*ck you...In fact I hate my lawyer even worse than my ex-wife...Rest in peace my man...
there seriously is NO GOOD REASON in this day and age to get married.
If you TRULY find your soulmate, get that mate to sign a pre-nup.
Keep in mind, Gamble's ex had her attorney scour all of the poker websites he posted on, looking for shit to use against him in court.
Tread Carefully Sir
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