i got kicked out of a gay bar in SF for being straight back in the 90s. was not mad, seemed perfectly reasonable.
i got kicked out of a gay bar in SF for being straight back in the 90s. was not mad, seemed perfectly reasonable.
"Birds born in a cage think flying is an illness." - Alejandro Jodorowsky
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Boss and two females from work are gay. They invited people from work out for drinks and we ended up at a gay bar because of a drag show. I went for the lulz. It was pretty chill other than mad dudes making out with each other I obviously wasnt used to seeing that. Nothing bothered me pretty comfortable with myself.
Point is going to a gay bar doeant mean you're gay yourself. It's not the 80s anymore.
But Doug recently got married to Miranda, no?
I get what you are saying, as I used to think that, but its not like that at all.
I was told early on in SF, ’you don’t talk gay, you don’t walk gay, no one is going to confuse you for a gay guy’ & he was right.
That said I never went to one by choice. I went a few times w/work people & never an issue.
But one time i had no choice. CAL-UNC in the NCAA’s,CAL is up at the half.
(Tony Gonzalez was on CAL hoops), but I had dinner plans w/GF at the time, near the Castro.
There is a bar next door to the restaurant, ‘Martini’s’.
I walk in, its packed, 100% guys, 2 TV’s, neither of them on. I walk back out, I’m like WTF?
I look back at the sign, its “Martooni’s, a gay bar”.
I go back in, and ask ‘if I buy a few drinks can you put the CAL game on?”
‘What?!?!?! CAL’s on? OMG, yes!!!’ (in the same voice you would imagine). So I take the one bar seat (so I could see the TV), & she was standing next to me, and was literally swarmed on by the guys there w/in a minute. I didn’t have to entertain her at all.
It was an absolute great experience.
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The best bars in NO are gay bars, good music, better drink specials
They are fun.
Matt Glantz in a gay bar? What's he gonna do next, drink from the colored people water fountain?
So much cringe here.
I remember being 19 and laughing with friends about pushing someone into through the doors into the local gay club. I pass it off now to just being a homophobic prick (never had anything against gays but being a young male you pick up a lot of toxic things). A few years later in my early 20's I went to that bar with my girlfriend who had several lesbian friends. It was one of the coolest bars I've been to atmosphere wise. Played great house music, super open to anyone being there, and some guy (wearing a fedora before 4chan co-opted them) tapped me on the shoulder to let me know I dropped a twenty dollar bill. I suppose he could have been propositioning me but pretty damn sure my wallet was a little light. I've never had that happen in a bar before of since....
I guess if you were alone on dance floor alone you might be inviting something. But who goes to a straight bar even alone? These bars are gay clubs not gay sex clubs (and sex clubs are super strict about consent and how you approach someone).
Also pokerstars VR is really cool if they ever introduce real money its 2005 all over again.
I already got that perspective.
In my 20s, I went with a girlfriend to the super-crowded West Hollywood Halloween street party, where they close down the streets and tens of thousands of people descend upon the area in costume.
This wasn't a gay party. It was aimed at everyone, but being in West Hollywood, obviously it had a large gay presence. I forgot what costume I was wearing, but it wasn't anything showing skin or with sexual overtones. My girlfriend at the time was wearing a costume where her big tits were showing a lot of cleavage, and we were a little concerned that dudes might bother her there, even though she was with me.
Anyway, we were half right. Sexual harassment did occur, but it was aimed at me, not her! Not one guy bothered her or made a single comment. However, the whole night I had guys reaching out to touch me, making lewd comments, or attempting to get my attention to talk to them. At first it was funny, but then it got really annoying, and at one point I did remark that I was glad I wasn't female and didn't have to deal with this on a regular basis.
Bottom line is that dudes are awful, whether gay or straight, if they are drinking and are attracted to someone. I never saw any appeal in going into a gay bar. Now that I'm almost 50, I could probably go to a gay bar and not get bothered much, but it's still something that just doesn't appeal to me.
BTW I wasn't insinuating that Doug Polk is gay. I doubt he is. It was just funny that he made the 1-liner comment about loving New Orleans, figuring that nobody would know about the gay bar he visited, and then Matt Glantz coincidentally had a gay friend there who knew of Doug, and told him about it.
Druff,
You have never been to WeHo? I went a few times in my younger days, including The Abbey.
No one hit on me. I don't think anyone would hit on you either.
Conversations with gay guys are very similar to conversations with straight guys, or girls you aren't interested in. They're just people. You don't need to want to fuck them to have a conversation. Even in a bar.
tbf though, if I went to a gay bar where everyone else was having a good time and I was running up a tab of coke and orange juice, I'd be pretty miserable.
If Druff and I ever meet we're going to a gay bar and we're going to beat down a bunch of fags for fun.
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