Originally Posted by
KidPresentable
That's kind of a narrow world view. There are a lot of reasons people don't come out. I've had probably 5 friends throughout my life that are gay and took forever to be open about it (or still haven't into their early 30s). And I've lived in major metropolitan areas of California my entire life, so it's not like these guys need to be worried about local rednecks. This dude was in his 40s and got married 15+ years ago, so most of his life it wasn't as acceptable to be openly gay. There are all sorts of family and social group pressures (parents, siblings, aunts/uncles) and not wanting to be completely ostracized by everyone you know can be a huge mindfuck. In the news/broadcasting world, you don't usually just start on some huge show in LA. Typically you have to ladder up by taking jobs in shitty markets and from what I can find, this guy was no different--San Bernadino, Fresno, Rapid City, South Dakota. While unfortunate, it may not have been a wise career move to be openly gay when he was starting out.
He may be sexually attracted to men and women. But yeah, it doesn't make a lot of sense to me to get married to a woman and then be fucking dudes on the side. But maybe his wife wasn't into that hot suppository action.
Anyway, sucks for his family... Back to the GoFundMe bashing and laughing at the dead guy.
Even if being openly gay would have been tough on his career 15 years ago, there's no reason to remain married now and meeting guys in motel rooms for hardcore BDSM sex.
He should have gotten a divorce and came out as openly gay, at least in his private life.
He was also putting his wife at risk for AIDS with this behavior -- far more than hetero men who cheat. (I'm not defending the hetero cheaters, but health-wise, it's far worse to have your husband cheating with dudes than with chicks.)
A lot of these guys are just selfish. They have a life established with their phony hetero identity, and they don't want to disrupt anything. If you really like men so much that you can't help doing anal poppers in sleazy motels behind your wife's back, it's time to accept that a hetero marriage isn't for you, and do the right thing.
You can't even say that he was worried about the financial implications, because apparently the family was near broke, based upon the desperation expressed by his wife in her statement.