Lynne Ji calls out Orleans player for bad behavior toward her friend, but is there more to the story?
Lynee Ji is a young woman who showed up in the poker community over the last few years.
She has been criticized for some immature/bad takes regarding poker, including one statement that it's okay to cheat in poker as long as you don't expect to remain part of the community long term. (She deleted that tweet, after massive backlash.)
Tonight she shamed a male player at an Orleans tournament, who had an altercation with her female friend. Apparently Lynne was not present for this, and was going by thirdhand information. She did not name the player (presumably she didn't know it), but did post a picture of him.
https://twitter.com/helloitslynne/st...78543007330361
https://twitter.com/helloitslynne/st...78669176176680
Predictably, some people immediately assumed the guy was a misogynistic asshole, and posted angry messages in support of Lynne's friend:
https://twitter.com/bernstylz/status...38711497785826
https://twitter.com/helloitslynne/st...88340112916739
https://twitter.com/helloitslynne/st...89164490817989
https://twitter.com/eastcoastariel/s...06725554827326
https://twitter.com/JBPVFM/status/1736184367137902786
However, several others were rubbed the wrong way by Lynne's call-out, including those who had played with the guy before and never seen any signs of misogyny or out-of-line behavior from him....
https://twitter.com/helloitslynne/st...81470220447884
https://twitter.com/helloitslynne/st...13738406191236
https://twitter.com/JBillsPok3r/stat...38530500886934
And then others who were either present or had knowledge of the situation posted some clarity:
https://twitter.com/helloitslynne/st...13512039608448
https://twitter.com/GsMonies/status/1736257397398884399
Bottom line:
Since this is a thirdhand report, nobody can really say what did or didn't happen there, unless they were at the table. However, even if it happened exactly as reported (which I highly doubt, given the counter-reports from people seen above), there's no evidence it was a case of misogyny. I've received verbal abuse and bad behavior from opponents at the table many times, from both men and women. None of these incidents had anything to do with my gender or their gender. Altercations can happen at the table between males and females without it being about any kind of misogyny or sexism. Indeed, the complaints seemed to be about her behavior at the table (slow, not showing her hand when required, etc), and nothing gender-related.
While there is indeed real mistreatment of women at the poker table at the hands of men sometimes, this does not to appear to be such a case, and it seems to be framed that way in order to unfairly shame a player who was simply unhappy with the way Lynne's friend was acting.
In fact, the fact that Lynne concedes that her friend refused to show her all-in hand as required by all tournament rules (which is either bad sportsmanship or an angle shoot) indicates that her friend was probably the asshole here, not this guy. I hate when people try to avoid showing their hand as rules require. Very obnoxious. If you can't play within tournament rules, don't play them at all. I don't have an issue with dude retrieving the hand from the muck if her friend was trying to avoid showing it as required. "Carlos Figgy" above also indicated that her friend had a chronic issue that day with avoiding tabling losing or likely losing hands.
This reminds me of Veronica Brill's post over the summer of 2022, when she posted the seat and table number of a male player calling her "derogatory names", when in reality it was just a guy angry that she kept showing her hands to the player next to her.
