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I'd like to have a discourse on this because I'm legitimately curious; I also don't have too many friends---mostly by choice, but also because I'm an insufferable asshole.
Anyway, do most of the men here consider losing their virginity significant such as they remember the date it happened, totally insignificant or something in between?
For me, I consider it a totally insignificant event both now and when it happened. I'd say I have a better recollection of the first concert that I'd ever been to as compared to the day I lost my virginity; of course, I wouldn't even remember what year that was, except I just looked it up and it was 1996.
I suppose, 'Totally insignificant,' isn't absolutely true, but I'd consider it no more or less significant than most other things you do for the first time. Besides, not that it's some crazy huge number, but I had more sexual partners before being an adult than some men will ever have in their lives.
I think it was something that was highly prioritized by boys, around that age. The entire goal seemed to be to lose your virginity at the earliest age possible. I felt like fourteen was a pretty good showing, but there are a few kids who claimed to have lost it earlier than that---I was able to confirm one of those claims. Either way, job done, now I can get on with life. My only regret is not having any fucking clue what I was doing down there; I didn't have the internet, so I'd never seen any hardcore pornography. I had seen pornography with fully nude women, but none such that actually showed a woman with her legs spread. I remember thinking the vagina was lower than I thought it would be, lol, I thought it would be closer to where the urethra is and also that women just peed out of their vaginas.
Needless to say, I didn't perform very well. Of course, I learned from that and started to read on how to be better for next time. I got the second person that I ever had sex with off three times.
I have a good memory for dates, especially personally significant events to me.
I see you're a decade younger than me, but it seems the '80s and '90s were pretty similar regarding high school boys and sex. When I was in high school, just about every boy had two things he really wanted to do -- get his driver's license, and have sex (not necessarily in that order). The limiting factor, of course, was finding a girl willing to do it with you, especially if you were a late bloomer or unattractive.
I wasn't unattractive, but I didn't get the "older teen" look until I was just starting my junior year, at age 16.5. Prior to that I looked too much like a junior high kid, and I had a high voice to match, so I knew I had no chance with girls until that changed. Both my facial features and my voice changed abruptly over the summer before my junior year, so that was basically my starting point. I had my first experience with a girl (though not sex) about 6 months after that.
The date referenced by our friend tbuck (August 6, 1989) was significant to me not only because it finally happened -- something I had been waiting to finally occur for about 5 years -- but because a series of unusual events led to it finally occurring.
As I mentioned recently in a "quiz about Druff" radio segment, the first girl I had sex with coincidentally ended up in poker. My last contact with her was in the early '90s. She appears to only play occasionally, but she has Hendon Mob results ranging from the 2000s until somewhat recently. I don't know if she follows poker news or poker social media. If she does, she's definitely aware of my being part of the poker scene. If she hasn't seen a recent picture of me, I doubt she would recognize me around the poker room, as I look a lot different than in 1989.
I have a bad memory for dates and don't consider most things particularly significant. You're born, shit happens, you die. None of it really means anything, especially not on a large scale.
When I lost my virginity, I was actually just shy of being in High School; this was the Summer before ninth grade, for me.
I had the opposite, 'Problem,' or whatever you'd call it. I got my first erection when I was in the third grade. I recall a girl who I found really pretty, at the time, but no sexual desire, because I didn't know what that was. Anyway, we always had to stand up when we were reading out loud, so it was her turn and I found myself staring at her ass (probably openly because I wouldn't have understood decorum at the time) and then, BOOM, first erection. I do remember that. I couldn't tell you the date, obviously. They never showed us the videos until fifth grade (by then, I was masturbating with regularity), so I had no idea what the fuck was going on. To give you an idea, I was 6'1" coming out of sixth grade and stopped at 6'3.5". Now my height rounds up to 6'3" as I lost a little.
Needless to say, I was all but an adult (physically) by the time I was fourteen.
It was also strange because I couldn't really get any help for this erection problem. One time (just before puberty) I was switching clothes and my dad had opened my door (my parents usually knocked) without me noticing; I don't know what the hell was going on with him that day, but he thought I was manipulating my equipment, so to speak---I ended up taking the belt for that one, even though I wasn't actually doing anything aside from changing clothes. I figured asking him what was happening would only result in more of the belt, so I asked the pastor; the pastor told me that it was Satan trying to poison my young mind with sinful and lustful thoughts; therefore, I should pray to God and I would no longer have the thoughts. I did try praying; it should come as no surprise that God (if he even exists) doesn't choose to personally intervene in a kid's biological functions, so that was no help.