Originally Posted by
Dan Druff
Funny you mention J-Date.
I was briefly on there in the early 2000s, and it was absolutely awful.
Was never a big fan of dating sites, but I decided to give this one a try because I hadn't dated that many Jewish girls in my life, and I thought it might be nice to date a fellow Jew instead of having to be concerned about the clashing religion thing (even though I'm not very religious).
But the selection of girls was awful. I'm not talking about looks. From that standpoint, there were plenty of attractive and semi-attractive ones.
However, the standard 30-ish woman on early 2000s J-Date was neurotic, arrogant, obnoxious, and felt that J-Date was going to be the magic cure-all to their troubled dating life. It was amazing how many of them thought they'd meet Mr. Perfect right off the bat, and any guy who fell even slightly short of that wasn't worth their time.
I'm not saying this out of bitterness. I didn't even ask anyone out from there. In my brief time on J-Date, I didn't find one girl I liked enough, personality-wise, to ask out on a first date. Mind you, I met a ton of women online in those days, and I never had this problem before. From other places online, I'd think really highly of a lot of the girls I'd talk to, and it would translate into successful dates -- at least in the short term. But not J-Date.
There was one I somewhat liked and considered asking out, but it fell apart when I asked her a simple question:
"Have you met any guys in person off J-Date yet?"
She responded. "Yeah, I've met 14."
14!! Was this girl promiscuous? No, it was the opposite. I asked how many of those 14 first dates became a second date.
"Zero," she said.
0/14???
I asked why all 14 dates were failures.
"I don't know, I just wasn't clicking with them. You can't force chemistry."
These weren't just 14 randoms. These were 14 guys she liked enough to meet in person, and all 14 of them fell short of her expectations. Keep in mind, this girl wasn't beautiful or extraordinary. She was basically your average 30-year-old Jewish chick.
I responded back, "Well, not to put myself down, but if you met 14 guys for first dates and didn't like any of them, I don't think I'm going to be lucky #15 and break that trend."
She then lectured me about how she shouldn't have to settle, etc, etc.
I politely ended the call, and deleted my J-Date account.